• Kai Helmich

Why you don't have to honour thy father and thy mother


Anything in regards to child - parent relationships is still heavily influenced by the 4th commandment of “You shall honour thy father and thy mother” How come it never said “you shall honour thy child”? If the child would have have been honoured it would in return honour its parents. But this time on a free will basis and not as a indoctrinated law of society that frees parents of their consequences and puts them outside of the law of karma.

One of the greatest tragedies is that we stand by our parents and care-take them, wrap them in cotton wool just … that they do not have to face up to the mistakes that they did. How sad and how destructive for our society. As with each unspoken and unresolved conflict the already traumatized enough family tree has to inherit the problem and the souls involved have to be reborn into the same task till it is being looked at, accepted, felt and finally being healed.


The real meaning of the 4th commandment is about duality:

  • That we are of this world but not from it!

  • That we are spiritual beings, having a human (material) experience.

  • That we are children of God, living within the confines of nature


"Honour thy father who is in heaven and thy mother who is mother earth, that it may be well with you, that your days may be long in the land which the LORD your God gives you.


So the 4th commandment is not about your earthly parents and it doesn’t either ask you to keep the ties that bind you, confine you and are clipping your wings, preventing you from becoming the one that you are meant to be.


The bible clearly states that Jesus had also separated from his family ties as he answered someone in the synagogue after he had asked Jesus: "Your parents have arrived, do you not want to go outside and see them?" He replied: "why should I do that? Here is my family, my brothers and my sisters! If they want something from me then they shall come to me."


So the invitation is there to distance ourselves from the OLD YOU and go searching for the NEW YOU- the REAL YOU. Which brings us to the story of the “Lost son” but I shall tell you another time of the true meaning of it. All I want to say here is that the quintessence of this parable is not that the son was lost, rather the story is about the lost son returning home as an authentic adult, able to love his parents from free will.