Non violent Sex

There are so many things to look into why sex is not that continuous mind-blowing, fulfilling and expansive experience that improves and strengthens the connection between two people. Sadly our sexual interactions become destructive and distancing without us actually knowing it. And then when the rift is too great to bridge we suddenly face a battle that seems to be lost - that cannot be healed anymore. One does not want to have sex with the other, or the other doesn't want to have sex anymore! I could write now pages and pages of things what can be done in a situation where mutual and reciprocative desire for each other is waning or has been lost but for now I want to highlight why it ended